Permission to Love with Jerry Henderson
"Your relationship with yourself determines every other relationship in your life."
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“When I realized I was the source of my own suffering, I realized I could also be the source of my own healing.”
Jerry is a Master Certified Transformational Mindset Coach, author, speaker, and host of The Permission to Love Podcast.
He works with high-achievers to help them create a happier, healthier, and more sustainable life grounded in self-acceptance and self-compassion.
Jerry has helped thousands of people have a healthier relationship with themselves and uncover the limiting beliefs keeping them from the life they so deeply desire and deserve.
He uses a combination of transformational mindset coaching, positive psychology, trauma-informed approaches, IFS, and NLP to remove limiting beliefs and connect with their authentic selves.
Jerry has an undergraduate degree in Political Science, an MBA in global business from the Thunderbird School of Global Management, and is currently completing his Master's degree in Psychology at Harvard University.
Before becoming a Transformational Coach, Jerry spent most of his career in Philanthropy, raising over $1 billion USD for not-for-profits. He is a survivor of childhood trauma and now helps individuals learn how to create the lives they want from a place of healthy motivators and remaining mentally, emotionally, physically, relationally, and spiritually healthy.
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Permission to Love with Jerry Henderson
Best of Series | Learning How to Trust Yourself
In this “Best Of” episode, we revisits one of the community’s favorite conversations, focusing on how to rebuild trust in ourselves—especially after experiences of trauma, shame, or self-doubt.
In this episode we discuss the common reasons we feel unable to trust our own decisions, from survival-mode thinking to a fractured sense of self.
We also look at practical steps for repairing self-trust, including self-compassion, reframing decision-making, and embracing mistakes as part of growth.
Key Topics Covered
•Why trauma damages our ability to trust ourselves
•The role of shame, self-criticism, and negative past experiences
•Practical ways to mend your relationship with yourself
•Allowing mistakes and learning self-compassion
•Methods to connect with your authentic desires (meditation, experimentation, journaling)
•Truth-telling, authenticity, and reframing decision-making
•Taking accountability instead of seeking external validation
•Recognizing your resilience and survival skills
Chapters
00:00 – Introduction & Best Of Series
01:24 – Revisiting “Learning How to Trust Yourself”
03:18 – Defining Self-Trust & Its Link to Success
04:55 – The Role of Trauma in Damaging Self-Trust
07:08 – Trauma, Shame & Trusting Our Decisions
09:47 – Overcoming External Approval-Seeking
10:50 – Mending Your Relationship with Yourself
11:29 – Embracing Mistakes & Releasing Self-Criticism
13:43 – Practicing Self-Compassion & Letting Go of Comparisons
15:14 – Connecting with Yourself: Meditation & Experimentation
20:36 – Truth-Telling & Authenticity in Daily Life
22:13 – Breaking Survival-Mode Habits
23:20 – Stop Playing the “Character” Everyone Likes
24:07 – Reframing Decision-Making with Hope
26:02 – Making Decisions Without Constant Outside Input
27:31 – Recognizing Your Resourcefulness
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Hello everybody and welcome to this episode of the Permission to Love podcast. I'm your host, jerry Henderson, and, as always, I am so grateful that you're here Now. This week we're continuing our Best Of series where we're revisiting some of the top episodes that have had the most impact or where I've got the most feedback from the listeners of this podcast. As I shared at the beginning of this series, I often get a lot of questions from the listeners about which podcast episodes to start with as a part of going on the journey with the Permission to Love podcast. So this is my attempt to make that easy for you as the listener. So if you're new to the podcast, I hope this is helping you in diving into the content of the podcast and starting your journey with it.
Speaker 1:And if you're a regular part of the community here at the Permission to Love podcast and starting your journey with it, and if you're a regular part of the community here at the Permission to Love podcast and a frequent listener, I hope you're enjoying revisiting some of these most powerful episodes that have been a part of the podcast. And with all of that in mind, today we're going to be revisiting an episode called Learning how to Trust Yourself. This is an episode that I got a lot of feedback on, and this is often a topic that comes up a lot in coaching, as I work with people to learn how to heal their relationship with themselves. One of the things that's so important in healing our relationship with ourself is learning how to trust ourselves, so I hope you enjoy revisiting this episode or, if it's your first time hearing it, I hope you enjoy this episode today.
Speaker 2:Excited about today's topic, which is about how can we learn to trust ourselves, especially if we've experienced trauma and shame as a part of our journey and as a part of our story. For many of us, we may have never trusted ourselves or we're trying to figure out how do we trust ourselves again after some very difficult life circumstances or whatever the story is Now. Before we jump into the episode, I just want to ask a few things of you. Number one if you've not had a chance to rate the show or to review it, please do so. It really helps the reach of this podcast. It helps people hear it who maybe really need to understand how they can transform or how they can heal their relationship with themselves. The second thing is that if you haven't had a chance to follow, please do that as well, because that'll let you know when new episodes are coming out and I'll keep you updated about what's going on with the podcast. And finally, before we jump in, just want to let you know that I am recording this podcast from a noisy hotel room in Colorado Springs, colorado. Many of you know I've been living nomadically for the last two years and sometimes that puts me in spots where, when I'm recording this podcast, I'm in a bit of a noisy environment, and that happens to be the case today, so if you hear some background noise, that's what it's about. So thank you for your patience and let's go ahead and get started.
Speaker 2:I want to start with a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson, who says that self-trust is the first secret of success. A lot of wisdom in that, because when we can trust ourselves, we can trust the decisions that we make, and when we trust the decisions that we make, we can put more energy into those decisions and follow through with them, because we feel like we've made a decision that's aligned with us. When we don't trust ourselves, we often waffle on the decision and it's hard to put energy into it. So how do we get to the place where we can trust ourselves and what does it look like when we don't trust ourselves? So let's start there. What does it look like when we don't trust ourselves?
Speaker 2:Well, imagine living with somebody 24 hours a day, seven days a week, that you don't trust. You're not sure if they have your best interest in mind. You don't know if they can make a proper decision. That would be a terrible feeling, but many of us live with that feeling all the time about ourselves. We feel unable to make decisions, we second guess everything that we do and we live in this state of you know do, and we live in this state of fearfulness around decision-making because we don't trust our decider, our decision-maker. We put an unnecessary amount of weight on the importance of making a decision, even very small ones. We're often concerned about what other people will think about the decision that we're making, and we spend a lot of time seeking out the opinions and the approval of others before we make a decision. It's just not a good way to live. I know I've lived that way and it still pops up in my life, and my therapist often helps me with this. I always tell people the greatest gift that my therapist gives me is what she doesn't give me, which is answers when I need to be making those decisions myself and I need to be looking internally to figure out how to make those decisions. And so get yourself a therapist who will help you make decisions based off of your internal compass, versus all this external guidance that we seek. And when we get to that place, when we get to the place where we can really begin to trust ourselves and make those decisions. It really is freeing. It's more freeing than it is fearful. We're afraid to do those things, but we'll come to find that it becomes one of the most freeing things for us when we begin to trust ourselves.
Speaker 2:So let's talk about how did this show up in our lives? As a result of trauma. How did trauma wire us this way, to not trust ourselves? As I've shared before, trauma fragments our relationship with ourself. It breaks that internal compass within us about what we can trust or we can't trust. I mean the very people that are supposed to take care of us. We don't trust them. Life becomes untrustworthy. And then also, we have this sense about ourselves that are we trustworthy?
Speaker 2:Because it's often easier to land on the fact that there's something wrong with me than there is something wrong with life and I've shared about that before, or that there's something wrong with the person who's my caretaker. It's easier to say that there's something wrong with me. Well, those decisions are made in microseconds and they're just made as a part of a reaction to that traumatic event and, once again, it's what's happening inside of us. So if I've made those decisions that there's something wrong with me, then I get that inherent shame. And if I have this sense of shame that there's something wrong with me, then, gosh, I'm not able to trust my decisions because there's something wrong with me, and I've often been getting in trouble for the decisions that I've been making and they're kind of nonsensical, they just don't make any sense. So my brain can't really wrap its mind around, like when am I making a good decision, or when am I making a bad decision? Or if you've lived with somebody who's abusive and it seems like no matter what you do, you're in trouble, it really messes with your head to go. Well, when I did this, it seemed like everything was okay, but then I did the exact same thing later and it wasn't okay and I'm in survival mode. I'm trying to survive and I keep making these decisions and none of them seem good enough. I don't know what decisions I should be making or I shouldn't be making, and so my internal compass, once again, is broken and I don't know how to make a decision or how to trust myself to make those decisions, because I've experienced a lot of pain around decision making and I'm really trying to survive and that survival mode has really messed up my ability to trust myself.
Speaker 2:You also might have been taught that you're not allowed to trust yourself, or you're not supposed to trust yourself. That might have come from religion, that you're a flawed sinner, and how can you trust yourself? That you're supposed to seek the wisdom of those who are your superiors or above you or who are more enlightened than you? Well, all of that is, in my opinion, a control mechanism. Sure, there's wisdom in getting the opinions of others, the insight from others, but not to the point to where you're dependent upon it, and it becomes a control mechanism that you don't feel like. You can make any decisions on your own, and you always have to pass those decisions by somebody who's wiser than you. In my opinion, we're all in the same playing field, we're all from the same source, and so our ability to make decisions and we'll talk about that in a little bit is inherently within us, and we can learn to trust ourselves.
Speaker 2:So, as that relationship has gotten fragmented, shame also raises its head and we become hypercritical of ourselves. We beat ourselves up. No matter what decision we make, nothing is right. We may have gotten it 90% right, but we focus in on the 10% that we didn't. So we're constantly beating ourselves up, which just continues to wire our systems, that we're afraid to make decisions because we know, when we make a decision, that we're going to beat ourselves up about the decision that we make. So decision-making becomes paralyzing in some sense, you know.
Speaker 2:Another thing that I want to point out, before we get into some of the details about learning to trust ourselves, is that we're really not afraid about the opinions of others around the decisions that we make. We're actually afraid of how those opinions are going to make us feel about ourselves, and how we feel about ourselves is then how we're going to begin to treat ourselves. So we're actually afraid about the way that we're going to treat ourselves as a result of what we think other people think about us. I hope that makes sense. Once again, we're actually afraid of how that opinion will make us feel about ourselves. How will I treat myself based off of that opinion? Can I approve of myself or not approve of myself based off of their opinion of me? So we're actually afraid of ourselves in those scenarios, of how we're going to treat ourselves off of how we think others view us, based off of the decisions that we've made, and so really it's about self-acceptance and self-approval. How can we approve of ourselves, how can we accept ourselves in the decisions that we've made? It's a whole different thing. It's a whole different energy than trying to figure out how can I make somebody else agree with my decisions, how can I have somebody else accept my decisions versus me accepting my decisions.
Speaker 2:So how do we begin to trust ourselves? Well, number one once again, it is about healing our relationship with ourselves. In order to trust ourselves, we're going to learn to be kind to ourselves, to be gentle with ourselves, because we are mending a relationship with ourselves, and mending is something that requires gentleness and kindness. So we're going to start by treating ourselves kindly. We're going to realize that we often don't trust ourselves because we don't treat ourselves well. Think about it. Why would we trust somebody who is abusive towards us? Why would we trust somebody who beats us up after every decision that we make? And think about what that'll do to your nervous system around making decisions. If you're afraid that after you make a decision, you're going to get beat up over it, it's going to naturally begin to paralyze you and create fear around decision making.
Speaker 2:So we're going to start with being kind to ourselves, mending the relationship, and that's going to require us to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, it's also going to begin to require us to allow ourselves to make mistakes. So, number one, we're going to have to mend that relationship. And then, number two, we're going to have to give ourselves permission to make mistakes. So, number one, we're going to have to mend that relationship. And then, number two, we're going to have to give ourselves permission to make mistakes. It's okay to make a mistake in the decision-making process. Peter McIntyre says confidence comes not from always being right, but from not fearing to be wrong. It's okay that we make mistakes in our decisions.
Speaker 2:Now, it may not have been okay to make those mistakes as a child or in certain relationships and you felt like you got raked over the coals or your identity got attacked because you made a wrong decision or you weren't sure what decisions were safe to make or not make, and that's very understandable, that that creates some panic around decision-making and the ability to trust ourselves, but there's a real health in coming to a place to understand that it's just a decision. Let me repeat that it is just a decision. I know at times it feels like the weight of the world hangs on whether or not we have Chinese or whether or not we have pizza. Who knows what argument may unfold from something like that, but the reality is is it is just a decision, and decisions can be corrected, and allowing ourselves to make mistakes. It means that we're going to have to limit the criticism that we give ourselves about the mistakes, that we're going to have to limit the criticism that we give ourselves about the mistakes that we make.
Speaker 2:Just because you made a mistake in making a decision doesn't mean you need to beat yourself up about it. You can learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you've made and, yes, you may have made some mistakes that had some pretty tremendous consequences, but once again, that's in the past and we're sitting here today and we're trying to figure out how can we trust ourselves, and part of that is even letting go of past mistakes and practicing self-compassion. Listen, you've been doing the best that you know how, and even when I say that, I'm sure that there's a part of you that says, no, I haven't, I could have done better. How do you know what is your benchmark? Who are you comparing yourself to? Your story is your story and it's uniquely yours, so don't compare yourself to somebody else's process. You have your own process, and the only person that you need to be measuring yourself against is yourself, and, having come out of some of the stories that I know that some of the listeners of this podcast have, you are going to be experiencing some trauma around decision making. Listen, you are doing the best.
Speaker 2:You know how, so practice self-compassion, be kind to yourself and realize that a lot of your energy has been survival mode, and so comparing yourself to somebody else who doesn't have your story just isn't fair to you, and so give yourself grace, give yourself compassion, and when you give yourself that self-compassion, you'll see that that begins to energize you and give you a flow into a better state of mind, a better state of energy that allow you to be a more peaceful place in order to make those decisions. The third thing that we want to do is we really want to be able to connect with ourselves and ask ourselves the question what do you want? And a lot of us don't know what we want because we've been doing what everybody else wants us to do, and so we've created so much distance between our authentic self and what we think we're supposed to be that we've lost sight of what we want and how in the world can you trust yourself or make good decisions when you're not even sure what you want? Because when you make a decision, you're like I don't even know if that's what I wanted, because I don't know who I am and I don't know what I want. So any decision I make feels misaligned, it feels like sometimes it's shot in the dark, and so one of the things that's going to be important is connecting with yourself. So how can you connect with yourself?
Speaker 2:One practice is meditation, to be able to sit with yourself in solitude and quietness, to get still, to let all of the rumbling and the tumbling settle down and begin to hear and connect with that inner voice. In order to know yourself, you're going to have to do what you would do with anyone else spend time with them. So you're going to have to spend time with yourself and undistracted time where you're sitting and listening to that internal voice within you and beginning to understand who you are and connecting with that inner presence of who you truly are. You are in there. I know it feels like you've gotten lost in all of this, but there is a true, authentic part of yourself that even the trauma did not fragment, that even the trauma did not taint. There is a pure, authentic, beautiful piece and part of yourself that is the authentic, true you, that is unstained from the trauma, from the abuse, from the shame, and we want to connect with that part of ourselves, and the best way that I know how to do that is to sit in meditation and in silence and understand who we are authentically internally. Another thing that we can do to connect with ourselves is experimentation.
Speaker 2:I gotta tell you I'm an ENFP, if you're familiar with Myers-Briggs. It's the extrovert, intuitive, feeling and perceiving, and it's a person who needs a lot of therapy sometimes. So that's why it is a person who deeply feels, who is led by intuition, who has a lot of feeling and a lot of perception. And so one of the things I've learned about an ENFP is that they don't know what they want until they fully immerse themselves into it. They need to fully experience it before they know whether or not they want it. So for me, I've had to do a lot of experimentation to understand who I am, what I want, what resonates with me and what doesn't resonate with me, and that experimentation has led me to do some crazy things sometimes, like jumping out of airplanes, living nomadically, doing.
Speaker 2:Things that are allowing me to see what do I like, what do I not like are allowing me to see what do I like, what do I not like. And that's a part of connecting with ourselves, because we've often yielded what we like, what we don't like, to somebody else and then we get to a place where, like you know, I don't know what I like, I don't know who I am, I don't know what I connect with and what I don't connect with. So part of connecting with yourself is experimenting with the things that bring you to life, and sometimes you're going to have to dive fully in it and go no, that's not me and you'll go do something else and no, that kind of felt like me. But you're learning to connect with yourself and find out who you are, what you like, what brings you alive, what doesn't bring you alive. And the reason that's important in decision making and entrusting yourself is because you're beginning to know who you are and you're beginning to connect with your authentic self, maybe for the first time, and then you can begin to know yourself better and make decisions aligned with who you know you are.
Speaker 2:Another thing that's important in connecting with ourselves is listening to our bodies. How are our bodies responding to that person or that relationship or that experience? And we often dismiss that. We kind of feel it as something that can be pushed aside. But I tell you, one of the most important things we can do to connect with ourselves is listen to our bodily responses and to not push that aside, to not push aside that intuition or those feelings that we have. I bet you can note those times where you pushed it aside and you really wished you wouldn't have, but then again we start to get into the pattern later of pushing it aside again and that's just because we're not trusting ourselves.
Speaker 2:You know, one of the things that my therapist will do for me when I'm trying to make a decision is she'll ask me how does it feel? How does it feel in my body? Because I'll ask her things like you know, I'm thinking about doing this or I'm thinking about doing that and I'm not sure, and I'm really wrestling with something. And I'll say you know, what do you think I should do? And her response will be think I should do. And her response will be well, how does that decision feel if you were to do this? How does that decision feel if you were to do that Well, getting connected to the way it makes me feel bodily is often a very good signal for me in what decision I need to make. And finally, another thing that you can do to connect with yourself is journal Journal about how you felt when you made a certain decision and what was the outcome of making that decision, because now you're beginning to write out some history and beginning to see it on paper and able to reflect on it and go. You know, when I made this decision, it felt this way and this was the outcome. And you know what, when I made that decision, it felt a little bit different and here was how it turned out. So that's once again connecting with yourself, learning about yourself, and you'll probably begin to see patterns of decision-making and when you trusted yourself and when you didn't and how that turned out.
Speaker 2:So let's move on to number four, which is the practice of truth-telling. Why is this important? Because truth-telling allows us to feel that we're living an authentic life. And when we're living an authentic, truthful and we're not aligned with integrity and authenticity, how can I trust myself if I'm not living in an authentic manner by speaking the truth? Here's one of the big challenges for people who've experienced trauma. We've gotten used to telling stories. We lied about things that we didn't even need to lie about because we were in survival mode, things that we didn't even need to lie about because we were in survival mode. You didn't know when a certain statement was going to get you in trouble or when a certain statement may have gotten you out of trouble, and so trying to figure out, when do I tell the truth, when do I not tell the truth, when do I say something that makes somebody happy, or is this going to make somebody upset? Well, it becomes very confusing and as a part of that, you learn this pattern of not telling the truth because you're in survival mode. And that's okay. You were doing the best, you knew how. But there comes a point where your brain needs you to be consistent about being able to tell the truth and stop people-pleasing or stop trying to say things that we think we want other people to hear, so that we can now align ourselves with what we need to hear, with what we want and with who we are.
Speaker 2:Ram Dass, one of my favorite writers and thinkers on spirituality. His mentor, maharaji, told him two things to do. One love everybody. Two always tell the truth, because I think it came from the realization that when we tell the truth, we live in a state of integrity and we're able to trust ourselves because we know that we're somebody who lives in truth, speaks truth. And when we don't do that, we are fragmenting our relationship with ourselves. Do that, we are fragmenting our relationship with ourselves. So the fifth thing that I think is important to do is to stop playing the character that we think everybody likes. And we do this by saying things like well, yeah, I liked the movie when we didn't like the movie, or I don't care what we have for dinner, when you actually do care and you're not standing up for yourself and you're not expressing what your needs are and what you want and you're not making decisions and you're yielding decisions to everybody else. And the problem with that is that you're not getting into a place where you are making decisions and being able to trust the decisions that you make, and you're not getting that muscle, that practice of decision-making.
Speaker 2:The sixth thing we can do is reframe the decision-making. The majority of the time, the decisions that we're making are not life and death, even though they feel that way and it feels that way to your nervous system sometimes and it paralyzes you from making a decision. It is not life or death and you can trust yourself to make a decision and you can trust yourself to handle the outcome of that decision. I know as a child you might have had to make decisions that were about keeping you safe and keeping you out of harm and that felt very life or death. So decision-making became associated with that type of feeling. But the reality is today you are an adult and most of the decisions that you're making are not life or death.
Speaker 2:The second thing in reframing our decision making is around seeing the best possibility of the best outcome of making this decision. We often get paralyzed in making a decision because we think of the bad scenarios that are going to play out as a result of making that decision. But if we can just take a moment and begin to ask ourselves, what if this decision turns out better than I thought it would? What if this decision leads to something good and to something hopeful and that begins to empower us to make a decision with hope instead of deciding out of fear? We want to get to a place where our decision-making is more hope-based than fear-based, because as long as it's fear-based, it's going to get us trapped in a cycle of playing out worst-case scenario or FOMO fear of missing out. And so if we can begin to look at the decision-making process with hopefulness and a curiosity of what if it turns out better than I think it will, then that takes off a lot of that weight and that pressure and allows us to trust the process of making a decision and it can turn out good and turn out for our best.
Speaker 2:Final thing that I want to talk about in learning to trust ourselves is going ahead and making decisions without seeking the input from others. There's a few reasons for this. One is that we often ask people to tell us what to do because we don't want to be accountable for making the decision and we can actually blame other people if the decision goes wrong. It's a lot easier for me to take your advice about something and then turn around and blame you if it doesn't work out than to take full accountability for my decision making. But I know that that's not how you want to live and I know that's not our highest form of living. So let's go ahead and move towards what is a higher form of living, which is taking responsibility and accountability for our decision making.
Speaker 2:So I'm not talking about every single decision in our life that we just make on our own. Obviously, there's decisions we need to make with our partners, there's decisions that we need to make with other people or whatever the situation is. But I'm just talking about how are we retraining our nervous system to begin to trust ourselves, and a part of that is seeing ourselves make decisions and watching the outcome of those and not beating ourselves up as a result of those outcomes and loving ourselves regardless of those outcomes and practicing self-compassion regardless of those outcomes. Because what we're trying to do is we're trying to teach our brains that we can make decisions, we can trust ourselves, we can trust ourselves. So doing these things without the input from others on the front end or trying to get approval from people on the back end that it was the right decision is rewiring our nervous system to believe that we can trust ourselves and we can make the decisions, and the only way that we can do that is beginning to do it. Vincent Van Gogh said if you hear a voice within you say that you cannot paint, then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced. It's the same thing here. If your brain is telling you that you cannot trust yourself, that you cannot make right decisions, the best antidote for that is to begin to make decisions on your own and begin to see them through, and then learn from that outcome and make adjustments accordingly.
Speaker 2:So, as we come to the close of this episode, I want to encourage you to try this exercise this week. First, I want you to sit down and I want you to look at everything that you've survived. I mean, look at you, look at what you've made it through, look at how you've been resourceful, look at how you've made it to this point despite all of the obstacles, despite all of the things that you experienced as a child, despite all of the trauma that you experienced as an adult or whatever your story is. Give yourself the credit for how far you've come. There's a quote by an anonymous source that says trust yourself, you have survived a lot and you will survive whatever is coming.
Speaker 2:So take a moment this week and write out how far you have come, what you have survived, and don't judge how you survived it, because we'll often say, well, I've survived, but I had to do this and I didn't feel good about the way I did it, and we begin to heap this judgment on ourselves. Listen, you survived. You did what was necessary. Those things may not serve you now and you're wanting to move into a different space, but just the mere fact of writing down how you've been there for yourself, how you've learned to survive and begin to reflect on that, that in itself will begin to give you self-confidence and begin to show you how you have been showing up for yourself and begin to see that you can trust yourself, that you do have your own back. Regardless of the mistakes you've made, you've been there for yourself. If there's one thing that's true, the only person who's been through everything that you've been through is you, and the only person who is still there with you is you, and your greatest advocate can be you, and the person that you can trust the most can be yourself.
Speaker 2:So thank you for joining another episode of the Permission to Love podcast and remember, as always, you are worthy of your own love. I hope today's episode was valuable to you, that you gained some insights that are useful for you on your journey. If you did, I just want to ask that you would rate it, review it and, most importantly, that you would share it with somebody else, because you never know the impact that it can have in their life. And finally, don't forget to subscribe, because that'll let you know when new episodes are coming out. I want to encourage you as well that if you do need more resources, you can find me on jerryhendersonorg that's my website. You can also find me on Instagram at Jerry A Henderson. Feel free to reach out to me there. Send me a message. I'd love to hear from you. I'm really grateful that you're here and please don't forget you are worthy of your own love.
